Kristie Dahlia

Meet Kristie Dahlia

I wish I could show you the pure light that is my true being, but here I can only try to say it with words.

I love being.

My parents named me Kristie. I chose Dahlia for myself when James and I married and chose Home for our family name.

I decided to be a writer when I was nine. At different times, I have described myself as a poet, a teacher, a healing artist.

When I speak to myself inside my own mind, I call myself by terms of endearment. If I were to speak to you, I would call you by terms of endearment.

I love.

The exploration and explication of love and freedom are the work of my life.

Posts from Kristie Dahlia

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Musings

Now What?

James and I are finding that folks are curious about our plans. Some people want to know what's happening next. Some people want to know about our long term plans. So let's talk!…

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Moments

Five Minutes On Marriage: For Mamie & Kayvon

Kayvon and Mamie asked three couples of different generations to speak upon love and marriage during their wedding ceremony. We were honored to be the middle couple.…

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Adventures

Monster Trucks, the Ferris wheel, and Ribbon Fries, Oh My!

Mama suggested that we might want to check out the Windsor Fair, which has been taking place since 1888. Oh my gosh, we had so much fun! First there were Monster Trucks.…

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Practices

Retreating

A vital aspect of my spiritual practice is retreat: taking to wild places with wise folk to turn inward, like spring cleaning and a growth spurt for my being. I spent last week at the Kripalu Center studying with Lorin Roche, whose…

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Home Again: 20 Year Vows

Our tremendous gratitude to whoever created this installation. When we asked our friends Libby and Rich, who live on the island of Alameda in San Francisco Bay, if there was a beach they would recommend for our renewal of vows, they suggested…

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Adventures

Delicious Mountain: On Improvisation

Last night James and I went out in San Francisco. We drove across the Bay Bridge, which never fails to awe, and meandered on foot through the waterfront tourist district and  Aquatic park to Fort Mason. Oh, the pleasures of strolling at…

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Musings

On Wildness

A few nights ago in the dreamtime, James and I were in the forest sitting at the top of a slide. A deep, narrow ravine was quite near and a pair of huge red wolves were running along its far side. They…

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Practices

Meditation Retreats: This Spaciousness That You Are

Come. Let go. Turn inward and be nourished! A period of deep practice is a wonderful way to learn how to meditate, to reignite the fires of a sluggish or lapsed practice, and to refresh and heal.…

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Practices

Your Radiant True Nature: Home Meditation Course 14

Come, dip your toes in the waters of your existence. Rinse your heart in the light of the stars. Remember the way to the refuge that lies within you, holding wells of strength, courage, and solace.…

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Adventures

Isla Isabel: The Galapagos of Mexico

Isla Isabel (also called Isla Isabela) is a small volcanic island, a little over a mile square, and about 45 miles from the nearest port. Often called the Galapagos of Mexico, and famous for the documentary that Jacques Cousteau made here, this…

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Musings

It's all the Same F*cking Day, Man

I hadn't had more than three weeks without work (except for 2 surgical recoveries) since I was 16 years old until I stopped teaching just before we left San Francisco last fall. That's 32 years of work. For 23 of those years,…

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Adventures

Mazatlán: Port Notes

We spent close to two months in Mazatlán, from mid January to mid March 2019. Here are our Port Notes. Things change pretty fast in the world — don't be surprised if the businesses we mention or conditions we describe have changed if…

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Adventures

El Faro Mazatlán: The Lighthouse

What you read is "the highest lighthouse in the Americas!" What you don't read is: tiny building atop a huge lump of rock jutting into sea at the end of town! What everyone tells you is: The climb! followed by Have you…

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Adventures

Carnaval in Mazatlán: The Parade

Sunday night was Mazatlán's famous Carnaval parade. The ending was not too far from our marina, so we walked down the beach at sunset and had dinner shoreside at twilight. Barra al Mar was some of our favorite food and drink in…

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Practices

Laundry without Machines

We're at our first marina that doesn't have washing machines. Turns out there are no public washing machines in the little town of La Cruz! You wash things at home or send your laundry out. Most cruising sailors in Mexico send their…

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Adventures

Carnaval in Mazatlán: Burning of Bad Humor and Naval Battle Fireworks

After our work in the boatyard was complete, we decided to hang out until Carnaval, the pre-Lenten festival; Mardi Gras is the most famous example in the United States. Mazatlán's Carnaval is world famous, one of the biggest. We were warned: Mazatlán…

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Motivations

The Loss of a Foremother

Today I sing for Carolee Schneeman, the glorious, ferociously incarnate, brilliant artist, who has left her body at the age of 79. "I guess my best advice is this: Be stubborn and persist, and trust yourself on what you love. You have…

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Adventures

Stumbling into Magic: El Cladavista

After we completed our work in the boatyard we decided to linger in Mazatlán; Carnaval was not far off and Mazatlán's Carnaval is quite famous, one of the largest in the world. Carnaval is a public celebration of indulgence that often precedes…

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Projects

Boatyard Life

In order to replace the seals and bearings on Rejoice's rudder, she had to be hauled out of the water. We were about due to repaint the part of the hull that is under water, so as long as we'd paid to…

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Musings

Danger vs. Fear

Everyone: BUT WHAT ABOUT PIRATES?Me: Actually, carjacking is more common than piracy at sea!Everyone: OMG RLLY? BUT WHAT ABOUT SHARKS?Me: Sharks aren't actually very interested in people; that's just a movie thing. Everyone: BUT SAILING IS SO DANGEROUS!Me:…

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Adventures

Hanging in There in Mazatlán

You might remember that when we were crossing the Gulfo de California / Sea of Cortez, we had some concerns about our rudder after a dull thud that didn't match the pattern of things clattering about in lockers in the waves (1 meter…

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Adventures

The Southern Crossing: No Resistance to the Darkness

for Mary Oliver, whose spirit left her body during this trip, and whose words have long guided my heartFirst Leg: It was a couple of hours from La Paz, the Peace, to Isla Espiritu Santo, the Island of the Holy Spirit.  Gracias,…

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Musings

We Forgot About Netflix

When we lived on land, like just about everyone else we knew, we watched Netflix after dinner pretty much every day. Recently, I realized that I couldn't remember the last time we'd watched Netflix despite having been at a dock with wifi…

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Adventures

Caleb is 50! Our Trip to Tulum

Caleb and Tricia are some of our favorite humans, so when Tricia asked if we'd be able to come to Tulum to celebrate Caleb's 50th birthday with a few friends, we said HECK YES. Okay, actually, when she asked, we were in…

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Moments

The Marina Menagerie

This morning James and I were walking up the dock toward shore and Jacob, who works here at Marina de La Paz on boats, stopped us to point in awe at an enormous jellyfish that was bobbing about in the shallow water…

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Adventures

Women Who Swim with Sharks

When we arrived in La Paz at the end of November, all our new sailing friends were doing the local tourist thing, which is going swimming with whale sharks. James asked if I wanted to do this. I said "F*CK NO!…

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Practices

Fungus Among Us (and sure, Prickly Heat, too)

Sailors are always working to keep mold and mildew at bay on our ships, and, to be honest, those who live at sea must be vigilant about fungal infections on our skin! As someone who loves to geek out about human bodies,…

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Practices

Love is the Way: Home Meditation Course 13

If you'd like to receive this information by email in the future, let me know! Sometimes I do not post publicly and only notify my email list. Private sessions are often available by phone or email; drop me a line to enquire.…

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Adventures

La Paz: Mercado Bravo

By the time we got to La Paz, our cupboards, fridge and freezer were nearly empty. As usual, I'd researched the local farmer's market, so we biked up to the Tuesday and Saturday "La Paz Organic Farmer's Market" the first…

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Adventures

Cabo San Lucas to Los Frailes: Two Tries, and Our First Emergency

The first time we left Cabo San Lucas, the day seemed mild, the forecast was good, and we didn't have far to go, so we left in the late morning. As we approached to the point at the edge of the bay,…

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Adventures

Ha-Ha Redux, Because Gabriel is an Angel

Our friend, bright shining light of human inspiration, and crewperson Gabe shot a lot of stuff during his time aboard Rejoice, and here are a few of my favorites. James doing some logging. Why yes, we do use sheepskins for cozy in…

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Projects

Not All Roses

Having recently shared a lot of gorgeous shots of our trip from San Diego, California to Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, I thought I'd go for a nitty-gritty post next! Folks often imagine that a cruising life is largely leisure -- and all…

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Projects

Chocolate Mousse

Autumn is a heavenly time for avocados and dates along the coast of California and Mexico, which has made our journey a perfect time to enjoy one of our favorite desserts, a chocolate mousse from Reneé Loux's The Art and Spirit of…

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Moments

Ha-Ha Leg Three: Bahia Santa Maria to Cabo

2018 was, we are told, the least windy conditions ever seen on the Baja Ha-Ha in all its 25 years. Most folks had to motor most of the way. There were many engine issues, alternator issues, electrical issues from systems unaccustomed to…

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Moments

Ha-Ha Leg Two: Bahia Tortuga to Bahia Santa Maria

By now our crew was in a sweet groove. We had a routine with shifts, and the second leg was just one overnight rather than two. Gabe had noticed that while the schedule said we each had a three hour shift at…

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Moments

Ha-Ha Leg One: San Diego to Bahia Tortuga

In San Diego, we joined the 25th Annual Baja Ha-ha. I have in the past not been much of a joiner, and I must admit that it was mostly James who felt that we should participate in this rally. It turned to…

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Adventures

The Baja Ha-Ha is Underway!

If all has gone as planned, we departed for Mexico on Monday, October 29 with the 25th annual Baja Ha-Ha Cruisers' Rally. You can check out the schedule if you wish, or just know that we'll be landing in Cabo San Lucas…

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Moments

San Diego

We spent our final week in the United States in San Diego making preparations for spending the next few months in Mexico. The time was filled with work and magic. The gorgeous views I've mentioned have continued; I woke up in the…

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Adventures

Marina del Rey to San Diego

The Santa Ana winds were up, so we lingered a day longer than planned in Marina del Rey. James used the day to go to the banjercito at the Mexican Consulate to get the TIP (Temporary Import Permit) which would allow us…

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Adventures

Sea Lions, Ahoy!

In Marina del Rey we stayed at the guest docks of Burton Chace Park. This was our first time at a park; we've docked at marinas and a yacht club, we've rafted and we've anchored. This was a little strip of guest…

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Musings

Parallel Play

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other…

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Projects

Kale Walnut Pesto

One of the things we are asked about often is how we eat on Rejoice. The answer is: very well! Nourishment is a primary activity and a great pleasure for us. My body has some interesting ideas about food, which is common…

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Adventures

Santa Barbara to Marina del Rey

We sailed from Santa Barbara to Ventura and spent a day visiting with our friend Anastasia and her daughter Maeve. They have an extensive garden, two cats, and a dog, and we had a cozy time chatting and eating and picking herbs…

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Motivations

blessing the boats

blessing the boats BY LUCILLE CLIFTON (at St. Mary's) may the tide that is entering even now the lip of our understanding carry you out beyond the face of fear may you kiss the wind then turn from it certain that it…

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Moments

When We Are Not Sailing

The pattern we've been following along the coast is often to sail hard for a few days, then rest for a few. Folks tend to think of travel as vacation and assume that we are sight-seeing when we pause. We look forward…

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Adventures

Cojo Anchorage to Santa Barbara

To recap, we sailed from Morro Bay to Avila Beach, where we spent a brief, rolly night and rose at 3a to round Point Conception, landing on the far side at Cojo Anchorage. We spent another rolly night here and woke with…

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Adventures

Rounding Point Conception

Brian Fagan, in his canonical "Cruising Guide to Central and Southern California", says that this area has been "known since the ninteeth century as the 'Cape Horn of the Pacific'"; he then devotes two sobering pages to detailing…

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Adventures

First Overnight Passage: Monterey to Morro Bay

When one secures a boat, there are several ways this can happen. Anchoring: You use your anchor! Because humans have been sailing for a very long time, there are resources that tell where safe anchorages are. When anchoring, it is necessary to…

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Moments

Sea Folk: Pyrate Steve and Nick the Diesel Jesus

James and Dan and I went out for food after our 24.5 passage from Monterey to Morro Bay. I am REALLY looking forward to telling you that story, but it's in progress, and I want to tell you this one in…

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Adventures

Half Moon Bay to Monterey

Since coastal cruising is new to us, we are doing our best to stay wide open, clear, and limit our expectations. We set out for the Golden Gate on Friday morning with minimal fanfare, just texting a few friends late the night…

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Moments

Go For It!

James and I have attended the Pacific Power and Sail boat show in the SF Bay Area for several years. It's a wonderful opportunity to learn; once you've paid your admission fee, there are free seminars all day every day. There are…

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Moments

WE DID IT: Sailing Out of the Golden Gate

Friday morning September 14 at 8:51 we cast off our dock lines from our berth at Marina Bay Yacht Harbor, which is where 'joice was when we bought her, and which has been our home base for the past year. A…

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Moments

Our Love is a Grownup

Twenty one years ago this weekend, a dozenish friends went to Burning Man. James and I were among them. We were not a couple; in fact, each of us was dating someone else. At the burn, I put my arms around him…

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Moments

Introducing our Tender

ten·der adjective showing gentleness and concern or sympathy. (of food) easy to cut or chew; not tough. verb offer or present (something) formally. noun an offer to carry out work, supply goods, or buy land, shares, or another asset at a…

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Moments

On the Cusp

Last week, we had our Bon Voyage Party on Thursday, returned the car we'd been loaned for the past month Friday, and took some of our house family from San Francisco out on the water Saturday. At that point, the most wonderful…

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Moments

Bon Voyage: Thank you

Oh, you wonderful, wonderful creatures! Thank you, thank you, thank you. We were nervous about our Bon Voyage Party. It seemed possible that we might just sit amongst you all and sob, which would not be fun for anyone. My heart-sister Eleni…

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Projects

Anxiety, Peace, and Our Ditch Bag

One of the things that James and I love about sailing is that emergency preparedness is, for good sailors, a natural way of being. As mainstream life in America grows ever more swaddled by layers of technology and commercialism, we are fascinated…

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Musings

I Want to Spend the Rest of My Life Everywhere, With Everyone, One to One, Always, Forever, Now

Yesterday I hugged someone, one of my dearest humans, for the last time in our friendship here, as they will be out of town for the next couple weeks, and they cried in my arms and I in theirs. The tears were…

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Musings

Mama Said There'd Be Days Like This

Yesterday I wanted to lie down and found that all six of the sleeping surfaces aboard Rejoice were covered with projects that were on pause for some reason. We woke today on the settees in the saloon (the bench-couches in the main…

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Musings

The Garden of the Mind

I've had the habit of hanging words to cultivate myself for as long as I can remember. The world is full of messages that are designed to sculpt our thoughts and desires. I like to counter the capitalist agenda by holding onto…

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Moments

Preparation for Departure

For months, people have said, "You are so tan from sailing!" and "So you sail every day, right?" Really, the tans were from driving around in Lola, our beloved and dearly departed convertible, running errands. Soon we will…

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Projects

Everything You Call Mine is Holding You

One of the things that people ask most consistently about the path that we have taken is "Do you miss your things?" The simple answer is: No. The longer answer is: Our path toward living with a smaller footprint aboard…

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Moments

Prayersong: Life and Death

Last week I would have told you that, 4ish weeks from our planned departure, my big concern at the moment was that my best friend was coming to be our first weekend guest. I was sure that I needed to get the…

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Moments

Welcome Home, Again

Yesterday was the 19th anniversary of our marriage. We decided to make year nineteen The Wetsuit Anniversary. Bruce and Alene of s/v Migration said that we had to go to Steele's Discount Scuba for this. When folks who've started south again…

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The Joy of Being Lost and Finding Your Way

This is a story for Ludwig, who I love, whose body is not alive. A few threads, and then the heart of it. The boat in the berth to our right has gone to the boatyard for some work to prepare her…

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Musings

In the Wee Hours: Anxiety and the Nature of Comfort

At some point in the dark and wee hours last night, I got up, grabbed a flashlight, and lifted a floorboard to peer down into the bilge, bottom of our boat. I'd like to tell you why, because it's a huge part…

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Practices

A Day in the Life

Fhis is what our days tend to look like right now. On the left is the overflow of James' project; he and his work are in the engine compartment, where he's replacing a whole lot of wiring to understand a system, chase…

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Practices

The Nature of Existence: a Letter upon Love or Why ONE is Tattooed on my Wrist

One of my students, following the end of a romantic relationship, found themselves feeling horribly about themselves as well as heartbroken. Beloved friend, I once had a breakup that left my self-esteem feeling tattered in a way that was unfamiliar and surprising…

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Projects

Our Saloon

When we bought Rejoice, her saloon looked like this: Removing the TV/DVD player and taking out the carpet came first. After that, we debated for months whether to reupholster our settees, and if so, whether to try it ourselves or hire…

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Practices

Kind Words in Dark Times

For most of my adult life, in difficult times, the practice of dropping into the intimate and transpersonal space of teaching has been a great comfort to me; I always knew that I was doing good, every day, by participating in the…

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Moments

Darkness and Light

This bit of backstory was written May 12, 2017. Last night we went to a talk at OCSC, our beloved local sailing school, about Blue Water Cruising -- which means crossing oceans for pleasure in a sailboat, as we aim to do.…

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Moments

45 Pairs of Shoes

This bit of backstory was written in May 2016. I like to think of myself as a practical, earthy woman. Upon preparing to downsize from the Edwardian flat in which I lived for 13 years, which had a closet in every room,…

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Adventures

Basic Keelboat

This bit of backstory was written in September 2015. Home today after a week on the Bay learning to sail during the days and at home on my boat in the Berkeley Marina at night. Last night I woke back in my…

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Motivations

Upon Awakening

I have written this poem before. May I write this poem again; it is worthy every time: the orchid blossoms are opening.…

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